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Effects of Childhood Trauma Affects Who You Are Today!

Motivational, Inspirational, & Holistic

Motivational, Inspirational, & Holistic

Effects of Childhood Trauma Affects Who You Are Today!

As a young girl I was sexually molested.  I believe that trying to overcome that particular childhood trauma and all of it’s tangential patterns made me into the strong, outgoing, vivacious woman I am today.  But how is it that my childhood trauma was the catalyst for greatness yet I meet people daily who are still deeply affected by their own childhood trauma?  Some of my clients suffer Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) from their childhood.  Yet others, like Oprah, thrive because they learned specific skill to overcome the tragedy they suffered.

In my case, I had to work on patterns of sexually abuse and how my mother dealt with it.  The mother-daughter relationship was the precipice for my book, Mothering…Your Inner Connection.  Certain adaptive patterns I learned while surviving childhood sexually abuse were ingrained into my belief system.  Such beliefs as

  1.  I needed to keep family secrets or my family would be upset with me.
  2. Love required me to pretend everything was OK
  3. I was not important enough to have my needs met.
  4. To be loved, I needed to act a certain way.

And many many more beliefs THAT WERE NOT TRUE , I brought into adulthood and into my relationships, anyway.

Effects of Childhood Trauma Affects Who You Are Today!

The effects of childhood trauma affect who you are today!  Your trauma may have been neglect.  Your trauma may have been over-indulgence.  Whatever your trauma is, it shaped how you act and react in a relationship.

Being in relationship, with friends or with a partner,

in addition to the effects of

childhood trauma

can be devastating to your current relationships!

I can hear the roar of the chorus already;  I wasn’t sexually molested….I wasn’t beaten….I did not have a traumatic childhood.  May I postulate that ANY BELIEF that came out of your childhood affects the relationships you are in now?  Of course, some of those patterns my be beneficial. However, I will go as far as to say most thoughts or ideas (beliefs)  formed by a 6 year old, 9 year old, 13 year old are immature and one dimensional beliefs that do not hold the depth and dimension that you, as a wise adult, would have.

Go back to my blog about belief systems (click here) or read my book, Mothering…Your Inner Connection (click here)  and take this opprotunity to look at your childhood patterns.  Whether your beliefs are based on the effects of childhood trauma or you merely working off an old, immature belief systems, A good honest  look at your patterns and beliefs will affect any relationships you are in today.

With Warm Regards

Sharon K. Hepburn

The Inner Connection



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  • Mara Gardner

    Sharon, Congratulations on getting your book out!!! You have so much valuable insight to share with us!
    I appreciate the reminder to step back and take a good look at those beliefs and the way all our relationships are impacted by them!

    • Sharon Hepburn

      Thanks for the kudos! The process of book publishing was fun and believe it or not so was the process of self exploration. Those belief systems and paradigms can be tricky little buggers but when face with honesty eventually show their true colors.