Emotional Pain, Mindfulness

From the Desk of the Deacon…Reactions and Judgments


Deacon Frank Prideax

Deacon Frank Prideaux

Frank Prideaux, who is a husband, father, grandfather, retired engineer and Catholic Deacon and I have known each other for years.  He is a man of great insight and we have had many wonderful philosophical and theological discussions.  It is my hope you enjoy his wisdom of how to become “connected” in everyday life.

Reactions and Judgments

by Frank Prideaux

There are times when “I think I’m going out of my mind”.  Actually, that was a song sung by Dionne Warwick.   It is a romantic song, but my problem isn’t romantic.

My problem is simply an overload of news…from the riots in St. Louis to the attacks in Syria.   Actually, my REAL problem is my reactions and judgments about the “news” which is being reported on.

The same topics even come up repeatedly with friends. There is this constant chatter of what side is right or wrong.  Everyone, including myself, has an opinion of how to fix the word.  Enough already!

Sometimes we hear the Holy Spirit whispering in our ear, gently directing us on our journey through life.   At other times, we get hit right in the head, telling us to WAKE UP!  I keep hearing the same “wake up” message, almost daily.  I’m starting to listen, and even beginning to understand.

 Awareness and Mindfulness

Awareness and Mindfulness are the two things I will start focusing on.  May I suggest you do the same?

Certainly we need to be aware of the facts of what is going on around us. Obsessing about them is never good, and I have let myself become obsessed.

I will spend more time in my day becoming aware of my surroundings, the environment, what my body feels like in space and will attempt to stop the obsessing about things I do not control.

I GOT HIT ON THE HEAD ABOUT THIS, JUST RIGHT NOW!     While I was writing this, a friend posted the following on Facebook:

  • If you look at the world, you’ll be distressed.
  • RIf you look within, you’ll be depressed.
  • If you look at God, you’ll be at rest.

This brings me right to the other word I mentioned.  In addition to being “aware”, we need to be “mindful”.

Mindfulness is defined as “the intentional, accepting and non-judgmental focus of one’s attention on the emotions, thoughts, and sensations occurring in the present moment”.  This is very God-like, being “accepting” and “non-judgmental”.

During the past months, I found myself becoming less accepting and more judgmental.   This makes me a very unhappy man.  I’m a downer to myself and others.

This past week, I have come across the concept of “mindfulness” at least five times!    Most of those instances happened when I wasn’t looking for them

It’s time I listened to the Holy Spirit and become more aware of my surrounding and emotions thus more mindful of the gifts I have.  I’ll leave the rest in God’s hand…and there I’ll rest.

  • Mary

    Thank you for this article. It is so true and timely. I am going to share it with my friends who are also struggling with these issues.